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Have you often arrived at your computer with several major to-do’s and then done a quick check of your email first in case you had an urgent item? Next thing you know an hour (or more) has gone by?

For once this behavior paid off for me. Last week Chris Guillebeau wrote a blog that was a real mindset-changer – he suggested Changing the Default as a way to decide “Now what?” after finishing a task. He has found a new habit that is helping a lot. His default behavior, when not sure what to do next was to CONSUME news online or social media.

Back to creating

What he does now is to answer the question with something active rather than passive – to CREATE by writing a blog post, working on his new Adventure Capital course, or preparing for the World Domination Summit.

This was a huge ‘Ah-Ha’ for me and now gives me real choice when I reach the end of a task. Thank you, Chris, for moving me forward in pursuing my blog, as well as my other major projects, by choosing the CREATE rather than consume button.

Next time you have finished a task, will you be CREATING or consuming, and if so, what?

Reading bloggers whom you respect can often be like a treasure hunt – playing detective through a series of blogs. Here is what I found yesterday:

One of the things about Jane Kise, executive coach and passionate educator is her point of view when blogging. In her recent post Yes, Play is Crucial! she led me to Linda Stone’s blog A More Resilient Species about how self-directed play stirs creativity , develops resilience, resourcefulness and independence. It is not play directed by adults but play that is experiential, voluntary, and guided by one’s curiosity. Such as my grandson and me when he was really little making Cake Box Cookies (see below)

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Jane goes on to talk about how research is showing that creative play is critical for the future of America and the world by developing creative problem-solvers, scientists, inventors, and many more involved in innovation and spreading ideas. She referred us to the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) for more information, including the impact on lower-income families where there may not be the same kind of parental involvement due to the stress of making ends meet. Her question of what to do?

  • Stop classifying physical education, the arts, recess, and student self-directed learning as “nonacademic”
  • Help children learn to play
  • Find time for children to develop their own interests
  • Model playing
  • Hand that study from the AAP to anyone who objects to children spending time at play!!!

She described suddenly being confronted with 70 urban 8th graders in a room and they didn’t know what to do to entertain themselves without exchanging insults and wishing for video games. Jane and her colleague taught simple paper-and-pencil games such as Dots and Boxes, team monster drawing (adding a body part to a body you haven’t seen before), tag team stories, and other non-tech pastimes.

I will be seeing Jane at the Association for Psychological Type International (APTi) XX Conference in Miami July 10-14 and I plan to see if she will play some of those games while we are there – they sound like fun.

What this reminded me of was my favorite gift for ages 2-7, a cookie sheet, a box of cake mix, and favorite kinds of cookie decorations and add-ins.

Grandma Charlie’s CAKE BOX COOKIES

1 box cake mix, any flavor

½ cup salad oil

2 eggs

Assorted add-ins such as chocolate chips, nuts, anything you know the child likes

Assorted decorations such as sprinkles, raw sugar, frosting (in tubes or cans)

Stir cake mix, salad oil, and eggs together. If doing add-ins, add in ¼ to ½ cup of one

Drop by spoonful on cookie sheet about one inch apart

Bake 8-10 minutes (look for browning around the edges and sniff for a nice baked cookie smell (chocolate cookies are hard to tell about the edge-browning.) If there seems to be a slight scorched smell snatch quickly from oven. Slide quickly onto a wire rack and let cool. Then eat or decorate and eat happily.

Do you have a favorite game or activity you play now as an adult or with younger ones in your life?

As Spring moves into Durham, North Carolina, there are leaves turning over on the trees in my yard and the yellow and purple pansies on my steps.

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What is happening is the new leaf that this blogger is turning over since January 1st when she read Michael Michalowicz’s blog on “The Two Words That Determine Your Success in Life“.

The two words are I AM. The pattern of the words is:

I am ___ [chosen goal} ___ and I am proving it to the world.

After several iterations, I have chosen three areas to concentrate on:
- I am in WORKABLE SPACE with ALL IN PLACE
- I am HEALTHY and FIT, in MIND, BODY, AND SPIRIT
- I am FINANCIALLY SUCCESSFUL
AND
- I AM PROVING IT TO THE WORLD!

Recently while sharing this with friends and colleagues, one said: “The person it is most important to prove it to is myself! How about adding ‘to myself’?” so now the final line is:

I AM PROVING IT TO MYSELF AND TO THE WORLD!

There will be more on what has been happening with my I AM’s later.

QUESTION: What might you choose as the ‘I AM’ that YOU are PROVING TO YOURSELF AND TO THE WORLD?

Below are the APTi CDC Chapter Leader Calls for Sept 8, 2011 and Oct 13, 2011

 

Sept 8 2011 CDC Chapter Leaders Call

 

Oct 13 2011 CDC Chapter Leaders Call

 

Mary Charles Blakebrough

APTi Chapter Development Council (CDC) Communications

apti.chapter.ldrs@gmail.com

Jane Winge,  APTi Chapter Development Council (CDC) Director of Operations and Finance. will be using the handout below on the APTi CDC Chapter Leaders call on Thursday, July 14 at noon Pacific, 3 pm Eastern. There will also be an update on the APTi Conference Dinner being held the evening of the pre-conference workshops on Wednesday, August 10, in San Francisco. The rest of the conference will be from August 11 to August 14.

PDF HANDOUT        APTi CDC CEUs CL Seminar 2011-071

For more details on the conference  http://www.aptinternational.org/conference.asp

Are you curious about the next steps in your career?

Welcome to a series of career ideas, with tips, tools, and resources for you to use in enhancing and advancing that career.

As a career coach who has worked with regular employees for a Fortune 100 Company in managing their careers within the company for the past twelve years, I have developed and collected a lot of ideas that I would like to share with you on this blog.

Let’s start with a critical skill – asking questions.

One of my favorite books is Leading with Questions: How Leaders Find the Right Solutions By Knowing What To Ask (Hardcover)
by Michael J. Marquardt – an internationally acclaimed management consultant who “shows how you can learn to ask the powerful questions that will generate short-term results and long-term learning and success.” What have 22 successful leaders achieved by knowing what to ask?

What happens when we let go ‘knowing all the answers’ and move to creating a space for asking the questions that get to the bottom of issues, that give others a chance to shine while making us look good?

Though I have focused on asking questions since reading this book two years ago, I still find myself stopping in mid-stream ‘telling mode,’ pausing, and then switching to a question. The richness of my clients’ responses and career growth has been phenomenal.

Want to see how it works? The next time you have a situation to resolve, try asking three questions before making any statements. Please let us know how it works . . .